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For the Dads: Skills Your Son Should Have by the Time He's 12 Years Old

For the Dads:  Skills Your Son Should Have by the Time He's 12 Years Old

Today's Dad is busier than ever.  No more do I hear of fathers who come home from work, put their feet up, have their newspaper and martini handed to them while the wife cooks dinner and the kids play. 

These days, Dad works 10+ hours per day, then comes home, wolfs down dinner, and helps to get the kids to their various activities.  Smartphone in hand, Dad continues to work while watching the Little League game or gymnastics meet.  Then it's back home, bedtime for the kids, and falling asleep in front of the TV for Dad.  The mafather's dayrtini may be the only constant.

In the midst of this non-stop lifestyle, it is easy to forget that as parents, our job is to eventually raise our children to become responsible, functioning adults.  It's a long-term position, and it means that we serve as constant teachers.  In addition to sports and academic skills, we must provide our children with some basic life skills as well.

What skills could a kid possibly need?  Well, lest your son get to high school feeling like Napoleon Dynamite ("I got no skills"),  here is a list of abilities that a boy (and heck why not a girl) should have by the time he turns 12 years old:


  • Safely build an open fire
  • Plan and cook a meal over that open fire
  • Sharpen an ax
  • Administer basic first aid
  • Paddle a canoe or kayak 1 mile
  • Build and launch a model rocket
  • Tie objects together using the best knot for the job
  • Ride a bike 25 miles or more
  • Give service to his community
  • Boil water for emergency situations
  • Properly fold an American flagbonfire

You may be wondering how in the world you are going to teach your son all of these skills on top of all his other activities.  And the answer is simple:  Enroll your son in the Boy Scouts of America. As a Boy Scout, your son will master numerous age-appropriate skills that will eventually help him function as an independent adult.

As a Dad, you can participate as a Scout leader, or place your trust in the other fathers who run your local troop.  Either way, your son will grow in ways that will make you proud.

A Happy Father's Day to all the Dads out there.  And a Happy 100th Anniversary to the Boy Scouts of America.

From a proud mom of a Boy Scout,

Kathryn Acciari
REALTOR - Sturbridge, MA



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Comment balloon 6 commentsKathryn Acciari • June 12 2010 07:32AM


Sounds like fun too!

Posted by Ellen Dittman, #1 Stop for NE FLA-JAX/OP 904.535.1199 (TEXT OK) r (Watson Realty Corp.) over 10 years ago

Ellen, my son has a great time doing all of these things with his friends.  They are sharing wonderful experiences.

Posted by Kathryn Acciari, Brand Ambassador and Business Coach (Century 21 Real Estate) over 10 years ago


I would add how to shave and change a flat tire..great list and good plug for the Boy Scouts....

Posted by Pat O'Reilly (RE/MAX..214-289-6176 Irving and all of Dallas Fort Worth) over 10 years ago

Pat:  Well...my 12-year-old doesn't quite have enough facial hair to shave but in a couple of years he'll be both shaving and driving.  :->

Posted by Kathryn Acciari, Brand Ambassador and Business Coach (Century 21 Real Estate) over 10 years ago

Kathryn: Great post- as a working father of 2 girls, I appreciate it.  Both my daughters are in girl scouts, although they have yet to wield an ax.  Thanks for sharing!  :)

Posted by David Obbee (Obbee.com) over 10 years ago

David:  Girl Scouts is a wonderful organization.  They have a strong presence here in our community.  The skills that both boys and girls learn in scouts are life-long skills that they can draw on time and again.

Posted by Kathryn Acciari, Brand Ambassador and Business Coach (Century 21 Real Estate) over 10 years ago